Omama Engihlangane nabo

Abangaphezu kwamakhulu ayisishiyagalombili baxhumana nami eminyakeni edlule, besaba ubudlelwane babo izingane zabo ezisanda kukhula zathuthuka nabaqashi bezempi esikoleni. Babefuna ukwazi ukuthi bangenzani ngakho. Babethukuthele, futhi babekhathazekile.

Iqiniso laba besifazane abafinyelele kimi nakwezinye izishoshovu zokuqashelwa kubonisa izinga le-alamu ababhekana nalo. Babesaba izingane zabo ezisengozini ukuthi zizobheka izifiso zabo. Babesaba ukuthi ingane yabo izobulawa ngenkathi ibemi. Lokhu kwakungamandla okuphikisa kwabo.

Omama abaningana bangitshele ukuthi babenqabile kakhulu ukutholakala kwabaqashi bezempi esikoleni sabantwana babo futhi bachaza ukuthi abathintekayo babephethe ukucabanga nokuziphatha kwengane yabo. Bakhuluma ngobuhlobo obunzima ababenabo nabantwana babo. Abanye bathi ingane yabo yenze ubuhlobo obuseduze nabaqashi esikoleni iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-2. Laba mama babeqiniseka ukuthi amadodana abo ayezocela ngoba abafana babo babesazi ubuhlungu obungabangela omama.

E-Melika, bambalwa kuphela abazimisele ukubeka ingozi emphakathini ngenxa yokuphikisana nempi yase-US noma impi ngokujwayelekile. Kodwa-ke, iningi lalabo omama laliyizondlo, njengezilwane ezibhekene necala elivikela izingane zabo.  

Laba besifazane abakhulu bahlambalaza abasebenzisa izinzuzo ezingenalutho ezingqondweni zabo bebephezu kwezingane zabo kanye nokungabi nesekelo abahlangabezane nabo ngemuva kokubhekana nokuphathwa kwesikole. Babenenkathazo futhi bekhathazekile ngokwenza amagagasi kanye nabanye bachaze imizwa ye-paranoia ezalwe nentukuthelo ababehlangana nayo emiphakathini yabo ngenxa yokuphikiswa kwabo empi. Benza ngokuthanda izingane zabo.

Ubulili budlala indima kwiphupho elibi lokuqasha elidlala ezweni lonke. Obaba abavamile ukubandakanyeka ekumelaneni namasosha ezikoleni eziphakeme. Ngomama. Okwamanje, omama abakaze bangithinte ngenxa yokwesaba ukuthi amadodakazi abo angafaka isicelo.

Mhlawumbe okuthusa kakhulu, omama abaningi bathe izingane zabo bezingakwazi ukwenza isinqumo sobukhulu obungaka zisencane kangaka. Akumangazi. I-American Public Health Association I-APHA uthi kukhona ubufakazi obubalulekile bokuthi ubuchopho bentsha abuhlonywanga ukwenza izinombolo ezinobungozi ezinembile mayelana nokubhaliswa kwezempi.

I-APHA ikhomba ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi amasosha omncane azothola izingozi zempilo yengqondo, kuhlanganise nokucindezeleka, ukusetshenziswa kabi kwezidakamizwa, ukukhathazeka kwesifo, ukucindezeleka, ukucindezeleka ngemuva kokucindezeleka nokuzibulala. I-APHA ithi abaqashi bahlanganyela ekuziphatheni okubi ngenhloso yokuthola ukuzethemba nokwethemba kwengane. Abaqashi bahleka kakhulu ngesikhathi behluleka ukuhlonipha imingcele ecacile.

Lezi zimama zilwa kabi. Ngezinye izikhathi bayakwazi ukugcina izingane zabo zingabhalisi; ngezinye izikhathi abakwazi. Ngesinye isikhathi bayasiza ekuphoqeleleni izikole ukuthi bashintshe izinqubomgomo zabo mayelana nabaqashi bokufinyelela kufanele babe nabafundi kwi-campus. Ngesinye isikhathi bayakwazi ukuvimbela ukugeleza kolwazi kusuka esikoleni sabo ukuya kumyalo wokuqashwa.

Umama waseMidwest uthintana nami mayelana nokukhathazeka kwakhe okujulile ngendlela abaqashi bebengabangane ngayo nendodana yakhe esikoleni. Uthe abaqashi babephethe ukubusa okukhulu esikoleni.

(Ngemva kwakho konke, Ikhasi le-2 ye-Recruiter's Handbook ifuna "ubunikazi besikolo.")

Indodana yakhe yamelana nezifiso zakhe. Ngemva kweminyaka emibili wabulawa e-Afghanistan. Wangibiza izinsuku ezimbalwa emva kwezindaba ezibhubhisayo. Wavuma ukuba nomngcwabo wendodana yakhe e-Arlington National Cemetery evezwe yinhlangano yezindaba emhlabeni wonke eyabika ukumelana nokuqashwa esikoleni. Wathi kufanele akwenze. Ukuhlupheka kwakhe kwagcwaliseka.

Omunye umama waseMexico ngaphandle kweDenver, owakhulisa ukukhulisa umfana wakhe osemusha engenabo ubaba, echaza ngokukhululekile ukuthi indodana yakhe yayisondelene kakhulu nomuntu oqhamuka embusweni waseMexico wayibona cishe nsuku zonke esikoleni. Amahora amabili asetshenzisiwe edlala basketball eyodwa-on-one kanti ingane yakhe yagcina ibhalisiwe. I-recruiter ye-Army yaba "Njengomuntu obala uyise."

Ngithole enye ikholi evela kumama wase Colorado. Abafundi abaningana esikoleni, kuhlanganise nendodana yakhe, bebike ukuthi bezwa iqembu lokuqashwa kwezempi libhekisela eqenjini elincane labafundi ngokuthi "amafagots" ngesikhathi behambisa i-ASVAB ku-500 ngesikhathi sesifundo sokuhlolwa sempi esadingeka ngonyaka. Ukuxokozela okwakubangelwa, okwakuthathwa ephepheni lendawo, kugxile kwi-slur yama-gay, kodwa ayikhokhanga ukuhlolwa okuphoqelelwe kwe-500. Omunye wabafundi owake wazwa la mazwi athi abafundi abaningana abazange bajabule ngokuphoqelelwa ukuba bahlole baqokwa ngabakwa-recruiters. "Amaphoyisa asithatha ngenxa yendlela esibheke ngayo," kusho okhulumela amaphoyisa esikoleni.

Umama okhathazekile waseNyakatho Carolina wangishayela ucingo ezongitshela ukuthi indodana yakhe nabanye ababili benqabile ukwenza isivivinyo esidingekayo se-ASVAB esikoleni futhi bathunyelwa egumbini lokugcinwa lolo suku. Iphepha lendawo lavuma ukubhala indaba, imvamisa laphikisana nokuphikelela kwesikole ukuthi bonke abafundi benze izivivinyo zokubhaliswa kwezempi. Kuwo, uthishanhloko wachaza, "Anginaso isineke esikhulu kubantu abenqabayo ukwenza ukuhlolwa-noma abenqaba noma yini iqhaza lebanga labo elibamba iqhaza kulo."

Umama wezingane ezincane esikoleni esiphakeme eGeorgia uchaze nge-imeyili ukuthi inhloko yendodana yakhe ithi i-ASVAB yayigunyaziwe ngumthetho wesifundazwe. Wayehlola ukuze abone ukuthi lokhu kuyiqiniso. Akusikho, kunjalo.

Ukuthumela kuma-social media nokusabalalisa ama-fliers ngosuku lokuhlolwa, abadala ababili abaneminyaka engu-17 abanamahloni abaqinisekisile isigamu senkampani encane ukuba banqabe ukuhlola. Abafundi abaningana abahlala evivini bagcwaliswa ngolwazi olungalungile.  

Umama waseFlorida, uToria Latnie wangitshela umeluleki wesikole sendodana yakhe eFlorida waxwayisa abantu abadala ukuthi isivivinyo sokubhaliswa kwezempi siyimfuneko yokuthweswa iziqu. ULatnie wacwaninga lolu daba futhi wenqaba ukuvumela indodana yakhe ukuthi yenze isivivinyo. ULatnie wayengesabi. USA Today kubika yena, “Bengithukuthele, ngithukuthele kakhulu. Ngangizizwa ngiqanjelwa amanga, ngikhohlisiwe, njengabantu abazama ukungishiya emuva banikeze imininingwane eyimfihlo yengane yami emasosheni. ”

Umama wase-Oregon uthumele i-imeyli i-imeyli ukuthi abuze ukuthi "kuyomthetho" yini ukuthi indodana yakhe idingeke ukuba ithole ukuhlolwa kokuhlolwa kwezempi ngosuku olulandelayo esikoleni. Ngachaza ukuthi indima yempi yayicacile njengodaka. Kungenzeka ukuthi ngaphakathi komthetho, ezweni elingenamthetho, ngachaza. Umyalo wokuqasha uthi akudingi izingane ukuba zithathe i-ASVAB. Esikhundleni salokho, amasosha athi uzosebenzisana nezikhulu zezikole ezidinga abafundi ukuba bazithathe.  

Ngokweziqondiso zempi, Uma isikole sidinga bonke abafundi bebanga ukuhlola, i-DOD "izoyixhasa." Niyabo Umthetho Wokuthengiswa Kwezimpahla zabasebenzi be-DOD 3.1.e. Izingane ezikoleni eziyizinkulungwane ziphoqelelwe ukuba zithathe ukuhlolwa kokubhaliswa kwezempi.

Ngakusasa, indodana yakhe nomunye umfana bakhetha izimpendulo ngezikhathi ezithile, okwenza abafana ababili basuswe yi-1st Sergeant esikoleni esikoleni. Lo mama, njengabanye abaningi, wakhuthaza futhi wakhuthaza ukumelana nendodana yakhe.

Omunye umama eMidwest wafunda ngokucophelela inkinga yokuhlolwa kwezempi ngokuphoqelelwa phakathi nezinyanga ezimbalwa. Ama-imeyili angama-100 abuyela emuva futhi ahamba phambili ngamakhulu ezinkulungwane zamagama atshintshana futhi adliwe. Ngesikhathi usuku lokuhlolwa kwezempi oluphoqelekile lufika, umfana wakhe wahlela i- "Senior Skip Day" eyakwazi ukugcina isigamu sabadala bakulesi sikole ekutheni bahlole.  

Umama waseMadrid, owasebenza njengomeluleki wesiqondiso esikoleni esiphakeme indodana yakhe eya kuyo, wangithumela ifomu elisemthethweni elakhiwe ibuthana lokuqasha langendawo elabangela ukuthi yonke imiphumela yokuhlolwa kwe-ASVAB ithunyelwe kubaqashi ngaphandle kokunikeza isikole ithuba lokuba unqabe ulwazi.  

Ngikhulume nomama odangele waseMinneapolis owathumela nge-imeyili ukuthi ingane yakhe ibe umngane nomuntu oqashe esikoleni owachitha isikhathi esikoleni sase-Applebee lapho indodana yakhe isebenza khona isikhathi esithile.  

Omunye umama eWashington, DC waxhumana naye ukuthi umfana wakhe wafakwa ohlelweni lwe-JROTC esikoleni lapho eqala ukuya esikoleni sikahulumeni esiphezulu i-9th ibanga. "Angifuni ukuthi aphathe lezo zibhamu, kusho yena." Amkhiphe.

Ngiye ngathintana nabamama abaningana ababecabanga ukuthi sebevele balahlekelwa impi. Lapho nje ingane yabo iphendukela i-18, abaqashi babenza ukuthi bayisayine Idokhumenti ye-DD 4 Military Enlistment / Recenlistment. Lokhu kubeka izingane zabo ohlelweni lokungeniswa okulimele, (DEP). I-DEP ivumela abantu abadala esikoleni esiphakeme ukuba babhalisele amasosha ngaphambi kosuku abazoyithumela ngalo ukuze baqeqeshe okuyisisekelo. Oomama befuna ukwazi ukuthi ingane yabo ingavela yini ku-DEP.  

Omama baseTexas, eKentucky, nase-Arkansas abanezingane ezise-DEP bathi abaqashi batshele amadodana abo ukuthi bazoboshwa uma bengabikeli ukuqeqeshwa okuyisisekelo. Omunye umqashi uthe ukungabiki kuzobandakanya isikhathi esiphoqelekile sejele. Umama wase-Ohio uthe umqashi uthumele imiyalezo ethusayo lapho indodana yakhe ithi ayisafuni ukubhalisa. Bonke laba omama bebengakholwa ngesikhathi ngichaza ukuthi indlela elula yokuphuma ku-DEP yile ukwenza lutho. Ngichaza ukuthi akudingekile ukuba intsha iqoqe ukwazisa amasosha ukuthi akafuni ukujoyina ilungu lamabutho ahlomile. Ukwenqaba ukubika ekampini ye-boot kusho ukuthi ubusuku buphelile.

Ukuqashwa kwamabutho aseMelika, ikakhulukazi ezikoleni eziphakeme zomphakathi, ukuphishekela okudabukisayo, okungokwengqondo okubamba amasosha akhethiwe ngokucophelela aqeqeshwe kwi-psychology yokuqashwa kwezempi ngokumelene nezingane ezisengozini. Kuyinto inqubomgomo yomphakathi ecasulayo, futhi yisikhathi sokuyiqeda.