nguJoseph Essertier
Kusukela I-ZNet, uDisemba 2017
"Banga nje. Angizange ngilinde. Futhi uma uyinkanyezi, zikuvumela ukuthi uyenze. Ungenza noma yini ... .Zibambe nge-pussy. Ungenza noma yini. "- UDonald Trump
"Sine Vietnam yethu. Ubizwa ngokuthi umdlalo wokuphola. "- UDonald Trump on" I-Howard Stern Show " e 1997
Ukucabanga homo sapiens kusekhona nxazonke, lapho "izizukulwane ezizayo" zifunda ngomlando wenkinga e-Peninsula yaseKorea eqhuma endaweni yesehlakalo se-2017, bazokwenzenjani ngokuphendula okungenasisekelo komphakathi jikelele kanye nabezindaba ezithintekayo ebusweni impi eqhubekayo ye-thermonuclear kanye ne-death knell of humanity?
Kuleli sonto okungenani, izazi zemithombo yezindaba zigxile kuhlu olubonakala lungapheli lwabantu abanamagama we-TV, osopolitiki nabaqondisi bama-movie asebenzise amandla abo isikhathi eside kakhulu ukuhlukumeza ngokocansi nokusabisa abesifazane (nabesilisa) ukuba babe yizisulu ezingenakuzisiza, ezingenazwi. Bambalwa abangavumelani nokuthi abanye balaba bantu abanukubeza ngokocansi manje bathola lokho okubafanele, lokho kukhanya ekugcineni kuyakhanya kule nkinga yezenhlalo ehlelekile. Ngempela, zona lezo 'zizukulwane ezizayo' zingazibuza ukuthi kwenzeka kanjani ukuthi kuleli “zwe labakhululekile,” ophethe ihhovisi elinamandla kunawo wonke emhlabeni azizwe “ekhululekile” futhi enelungelo lokuthatha isitho sangasese sowesifazane nganoma yisiphi isikhathi? Noma ukuthi osopolitiki abathatha izinqumo ngempilo nokufa ngezwe lethu bathola isandla "samahhala" sokusebenzisa izintela zethu ukukhokha, ngaphandle kokujeziswa, abesifazane abahlukumeze ngokocansi?
Lezi zimbonakaliso ezimbili ezibonakala zihlukumezekile, i-US isongela izwe elincinci, elihluphekile nesiteleka esingasebenzi ngokungemthetho, sokuhlasela ngokocansi, nenkinga yokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi olubhekiswe kwabesifazane kungase kungabonakali ukuthi iyafana kakhulu, kepha yisikhathi esicubungula indlela zihlobene, ngaphambi kwesikhathi sekwephuzile.
Ngokusho kwephepha lewebhu leZizwe Ezihlangene elichaza usuku lonke lokuqeda udlame olubhekiswe kwabesifazane (25 Novemba), ucwaningo "lubonisa ukuthi ukufeza ukulingana ngokobulili kusiza ekuvimbeleni ukungqubuzana, futhi izinga eliphezulu lobudlova olubhekiswe kwabesifazane lihambisana nokuqubuka kwempi."
Inkinga Yezinzalamizi
"Umlando wodlame olusekelwe ngokobulili uqinisekisa ukuthi akusilo ukuhlukumezeka okungenabuhlungu kepha kuhlelwe ngendlela ehlelekile emasikweni nasemphakathini, kugcizelelwe futhi kunikwe amandla yizinzalamizi." - I-Asian Pacific Institute mayelana nobudlova obusekelwe ngokobulili
Okudingayo kuleli phuzu emlandweni wesintu akuyona nje ukulungiswa ohlelweni lwezemfundo, imithetho eqinisekisa ukulingana, namathuba angcono emisebenzi yabesifazane abathile kodwa nje ekupheleni wezinzalamizi. Kuyinto engqondweni yasendulo futhi evamile ukuthi abafana namantombazane bafundiswa kusukela ngesikhathi bengena emhlabeni. Igama elithi "ubuhlanga" lisho "isistimu yomphakathi noma uhulumeni lapho ubaba noma owesilisa omdala eyinhloko yomndeni nokuzala kubalwa ngomugqa wesilisa" noma "uhlelo lomphakathi noma uhulumeni lapho amadoda anamandla nabesifazane ikakhulukazi akhishwe kulo, "ngokusho kwe I-Oxford Dictionary ye-English. Kodwa kubaningi bethu abacabangela ubuzwe, leli gama lihlanganisa futhi imikhuba yokucabanga ukuthi ukuxhasa lolu hlelo. Imikhuba enjalo isabelwa namuhla yizigidi zabantu, abantu abahlala emazweni amaningi emhlabeni. Futhi ngo-Yuval Noah Harari, umbhali we Sapiens: Umlando Omfushane Wabantu (I-2016), imikhuba yethu igxilile kakhulu njengoba ibuyela emuva okungenani ku-Revolution Yezolimo eyaqala iminyaka engu-12,000 edlule, futhi leyo mikhuba yenza ukuba ukungalingani kuhlelo lwezenhlalakahle kanye nohulumeni. Kufanele sikwazi ukuwunqoba leyo mikhuba ukuze senze izwe elinokuthula ngekusasa elizinzile futhi, ekugcineni, ukuqeda amashumi ezinkulungwane zeminyaka yokungabi nabulungisa okubhekiswe kwabesifazane. U-Harari ubhala ukuthi, "Imiphakathi yamaPatriarchal ifundisa amadoda ukuba acabange futhi enze ngendlela esesilisa nabesifazane ukuba bacabange futhi benze ngendlela yesifazane, bajezise noma ubani onqabile ukuwela lezo zimingcele." Futhi, "Ubulili ngumjaho abanye abagijimi abaqhudelana nabo kuphela ngezindondo zethusi. "Lokhu kuveza ukungalungi kwalo, akunjalo? Siqeqeshwe kusukela ebuntwaneni ukuthi sibe ngabafana noma sibe amantombazane futhi sibambisane nalokhu ukungalingani, sihlukanisa abantu bomhlaba sibe ngamaqembu amabili, ababusi nababusayo, ngokusekelwe ezingeni zangaphandle, ezibonakalayo. Akuyona into engalungile futhi engenangqondo kunokuhlukanisa abantu ngokusho kombala wabo wesikhumba.
Kuye kwaziwa kusukela ekuqaleni kwe-1980 ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi ngokumelene nabesifazane nezingane "kuyande kakhulu futhi kunomkhuba emasikweni ethu," okungukuthi, isiko laseMelika, ngamazwi omqondo wezifo zengqondo uJudith Lewis Herman, odweba inqubo yomlando eyaholela ukutholakala. Umsunguli wezenhlalakahle kanye nomshushisi wamalungelo omuntu ngaleyo minyaka bathola okuthile okwesabekayo, okungukuthi, ukuthi ku-900 abesifazane abakhethwe ngokungahleliwe, omunye kwabayisithupha wadlwengulwa kanti omunye kwabayisithathu wayehlukumezwe ngokocansi ebuntwaneni bakhe. Izibalo ezinjalo manje ziyazi ulwazi, kodwa okungaqondakali kakhulu yiyona nqubo ayicacile, ukuthi ukuqonda okunjalo kwengqondo zanamuhla kwakwenzeka kuphela ngenxa yokunyakaza kwezombusazwe ezinamalungelo abantu. Ukuhamba kubeka isiteji socwaningo. Lapho abacwaningi beqala ukuhlola, bathola ngokuphindaphindiwe ukuthi ukuxhashazwa ngokocansi kwamantombazane, abafana, abesifazane nabesilisa kukhululekile, hhayi kuphela phakathi kwabasebenzi abakhona kodwa futhi nesigaba esiphakathi.
Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zobukhokho
Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi kwenzeka kaningi empilweni yangempela njengoba kwenza ezweni lemicabango, ezingcolile zobulili ezingcolile. Ngamazwi e-hook angama-hook, owesifazane ohlakaniphile nomlusi ophikisayo owakubonisa ukuthi "owesifazane uyabantu bonke" futhi wabhala incwadi enesihloko esithi, "unikezwe amahora ambalwa ngosuku olutholakala emsebenzini wokuzilibazisa," izithombe ezingcolile zobulili "isayithi" of sublimation, indawo lapho umlutha wezocansi angathola khona ukulungiswa okusheshayo. "(Intando Yokushintsha: Amadoda, Masculinity, Nothando, I-2004). Engxoxweni yakhe ngemibono kaMichael S. Kimmel enkulumweni yakhe ethi "I-Fuel for Fantasy: I-Ideological Construction of Male Lust," yakhela inkolelo yakhe yengqondo yokulutha izidakamizwa zobulili ezingcolile ukuchaza noma ukwakha inkolelo yakhe evamile yobudlova besilisa ngokocansi.
Ukusetshenziswa komuntu kwezithombe zobulili ezingcolile kudliwa yizinkanuko zocansi ezifundiswa ukuzizwa sonke isikhathi nokufutheka kwazo ukuthi lesi sifiso asikwazi ukwaneliseka: 'Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile zingakwazi ukucansanisa ukuthukuthela, futhi kungenza ubulili bubukeke njengempindiselo .... Kuyo yonke indawo, amadoda asemandleni, alawula cishe zonke izikhungo zomphakathi ezomnotho, ezombusazwe nezenhlalakahle. Noma kunjalo amadoda ayedwa azizwa enamandla-kude nawo. Amadoda amaningi azizwa engenamandla futhi avame ukuthukuthela abesifazane, ababona ukuthi banamandla okulala nabo: amandla okubavuselela nokunikeza noma ukugwema ucansi. Lezi ziphetho zombili izifiso zocansi kanye nesifiso sokuphindisela. ' [Isicaphuno siseKimmel]. Amadoda amaningi athukuthele abesifazane, kodwa ngokujulile, abesifazane bahlose ukuthukuthela kwabantu besifazane ngokuhluleka kobukhokho babo ukuba benze okuhle esithembisweni sazo sokugcwaliseka, ikakhulukazi ukugcwaliseka ngokobulili okungapheli. Amadoda angesaba kakhulu ukubhekana namaqiniso empilweni yabo futhi atshele iqiniso lokuthi unelungelo lokuzibandakanya emidlalweni yokubusa nokuzithoba akuyona yonke leyo nzalamizi eyathembisa ukuthi kuyoba.
Izithombe zobulili ezingcolile kanye nokukhangisa namuhla ziveza izinto zobulili zesifazane njengomvuzo wokulalela imithetho nokufeza izidingo zobukhohlakele.
Ngokucabangela ubudlova bezocansi ezempi ngokubheka lolu hlobo lokuhlaziywa kwezinzalamizi, ngombono walo wesifiso wesilisa sokuphindiselela noma udlame olubhekiswe kwabesifazane ngenxa yokunikezelwa kwamanga kubantu abesilisa ngokobulili, ukufutheka okuqondiswe kwabesifazane kuyaqondakala kangcono-njengoba kwenza isisusa sokusebenzisa abesilisa namantombazane ngokuthi "ukuzilibazisa." (Uhulumeni waseJapane owawubanjwe ngemuva kwempi, ngaphansi komsebenzi kaGeneral Douglas MacArthur, empeleni wabanikeza abalingani ukuba baxhomeke ku-1945 no-1946 nge-"Recreation and Amusement Association" eTokyo). Abesifazane baye bagcizelela kusukela okungenani ama-1980 abamba ukudlwengula kuyindlela yokuhlaselwa.
Mhlawumbe isifiso esingenakuqhathaniswa sokubonisa abanye ukuthi umuntu uyindoda yangempela, kufaka phakathi iphutha lamandla aphelele phezu kowesifazane, isifiso esiqinisekisiwe futhi sikhuthazwa yindawo yezenhlalakahle ezenhlalo yezempi, iyimbangela eyinhloko yezocansi ezihlobene nempi ubudlova. Lapho amasosha aqeqeshwe ukubulala bese "athengisa" ababoshiwe, abesifazane abathintekayo ngokocansi, bafuna ukuthi ubuzwe babantu bafezeke esithembisweni sawo, empeleni bakhulise ukwaneliseka ngokocansi ngokulawulwa kobudlova abaye bahoxiswa. Imilayezo, iningi layo le-subliminal, lamathengi amaningi amathelevishini, ama-movie, izindaba zezimpi, njll. Zikhiqize kuzo izifiso zokufakelwa. Ngokuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili babonisa ukubuswa komunye nomunye kwabanye, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi omunye ungowesifazane ohlangothini lwesitha, othile ohamba eduze nesisekelo sezempi sase-US, noma isosha elikanye naye oyisifazane. Futhi ngalolu dlova bayaqhubeka nenqubo yokuba ngumuntu ukuthi ukufundiswa kwezemfundo yobukhulu babantu bafuna ukuba babe.
Amantombazane ase-Asian Hot
"Izizukulwane zethu zesikhathi esizayo" nazo zingase ziphazamise ukuthi kungani "izingane ezishisayo zase-Asia" liyigama elilodwa lokusesha ku-Google. Impendulo ayinzima kakhulu ukuyithola, ngisho nalapho labo abasemandleni, abaye benza umlando ohlazo wokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi e-Asia, sebenzela kanzima ukuwufihla.
Izibonelo ezimbili zokuqala: Njengengxenye yomlando waseBrithani, abaphathi bamakholoni bafaka ubufebe bamalayisensi emakoloni abo eBombay, eSingapore, eHong Kong naseShanghai. I-United States yayingenayo isimiso sezindlovu zobulili ezifuywayo, kepha izikhulu zase-US kanye nezamakholoni zaziphethe ukuhlolwa kwezempilo ngokomzimba kwezifebe ukuze kuzuze abashayeli abanobufebe basePhilippines. Ngakho-ke ngenkathi kwakungalungile ukuba izakhamuzi zifebe abesifazane ngaphakathi kwe-US, abesifazane abasobala base-Asia abazange babhekwe njengenani elilinganayo.
IJapane yayinezimboni ezinkulu zokuhweba ngezocansi ngaphakathi kwe-1910 kanye ne-1920s, njengamanye amazwe amaningi, futhi imikhuba yalo mkhakha yabe isungula isisekelo selayisense-ubufebe baseJapane, "induduzo yabesifazane" ku-1930 naku-1940s. Bona uCaroline Norma's I-Japanese Comfort Women and Slavery Sexual phakathi neChina ne-Pacific Wars, I-2016, ngenxa ye-akhawunti eshaqisayo yemikhuba yokuhlambalaza ngokudayisa ngokudayisa ngokocansi. Izibonelo ezimbili ezisheshayo: "Nge-1926, amaphesenti angu-53 wezisulu aphethwe ngokuthi 'izindawo zokudla' eTokyo prefecture ayengaphansi kweminyaka engu-18, kanti amaphesenti angu-5 ayengaphansi kweminyaka engu-14." Futhi: "Nakuba iningi labesifazane baseJapane bahanjiswa Iziteshi zokududuza zase zifinyelele kubantu abadala, bebelokhu behlambulukile ngaphambi kwalokhu embonini yezocansi kusukela ebuntwaneni. Lokhu kwakuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi kwabesifazane abathengiswa eziteshini zokududuza kusuka ezindaweni ze-geisha. Ukusetshenziswa kwezinkontileka zokutholwa yizindawo ze-geisha zokungcebeleka njengeplanethi ephakathi kwemisebenzi yabo yokuthengwa kwempahla eyenza ubufebe bamantombazane angaphansi kwezinto eziphawulekayo kulezi zinsuku ... Izindawo ze-Geisha ... ezisebenzisayo izinkontileka zokutholwa ukukhuthaza abazali ukuba badlulisele amadodakazi amancane kubathengi ngokusebentisa lezi zinto izingane zizothola iminyaka yokuqeqeshwa kwamasiko kwezobuciko. "UShirota Suzuko wayengomunye wabaqhawe bokuqala" oduduza abesifazane "(okungukuthi, izigqila zocansi zamasosha aseJapan) abhala ku-1971 mayelana nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe njenge-geisha ne" wesifazane oduduzayo "okokuqala wayedlwengulwe ngumthengi wesilisa owamkhokhela imali eyengeziwe ngenxa yokuthi wayeyindodakazi eneminyaka eyi-17 ubudala, wadlwengulwa ngesihluku. I-kimono yakhe "yaqothulwa ukuba imiswe" futhi yavutha kakhulu kangangokuthi umthengi kwakudingeka abize umnikazi wezokudlela we-geisha ukuze ahlanze ukungcola. Ubekwa icala ngodlame lomthengi. Ngenxa yalowo busuku, wathola igciwane lesifo se-STD futhi wayehlala embhedeni izinyanga. Kamuva wathengiswa kumdlwenguli futhi ekugcineni wasetshenziselwa izikhungo zokudlwengula zikahulumeni ezigunyazwa nguhulumeni (okungukuthi, "iziteshi zokududuza") zokusebenzisa amasosha aseJapan.
Namuhla eJapane, njengase-US nakwamanye amazwe acebile, amadoda aphinga abesifazane abathintekayo ngokocansi ngamanani amakhulu kakhulu. Kodwa ngenkathi iJapane engakaze ibe khona empini nhlobo kusukela ku-1945, ngaphandle uma i-US iguqula ingalo yayo, isosha lase-US lihlasele izwe ngemva kwezwe, liqala ukubhujiswa kwalo lonke elaseKorea empini yaseKorea. Kusukela lapho kuhlaselwa ngesihluku kwabaseKorea, kube khona ubudlova obuqhubekayo besosha laseMelika ehlasela kabi abesifazane eSouth Korea. Ukuhweba ngokocansi ngenxa yezempi yase-US kwenzeka noma ngabe kunesisekelo. Uhulumeni wase-US ubhekwa njengomunye weziphambeko ezimbi kunazo zonke namuhla, ebuka amehlo ekunikezeni abesifazane abathintekayo emasosha aseMelika, noma ngokugqugquzela ukugqugquzela ohulumeni bezinye izizwe ukuthi bavumele inzuzo nokuhlukumezeka kuqhubeke.
Ngisho nasekuseni ngemuva kokunqotshwa kweJapane, amabutho aseMelika ahlukumeza izingane zaseJapane nabantu abadala ngokwabo-ubudlova bezocansi mahhala, ngokungafani nezikhungo zokudlwengula, "ezokuzijabulisa nokuzijabulisa". Ukudlwengula okungahleliwe kwabikwa usuku nosuku. U-Terese Svoboda ubhala, "Izigameko ezimbili zokudlwengula kwabantu kusukela ngaleso sikhathi zazingenangqondo kakhulu futhi zabikwa: ngo-Ephreli 4 ama-GI amahlanu angena esibhedlela e-Omori [sic, mhlawumbe" indawo yase-Aomori "] futhi wadlwengula abesifazane be-77, kuhlanganise nowesifazane wayevele ebeletha, ebulala ingane eneminyaka emibili ngokuyiphonsa phansi. Futhi ngo-Ephreli 11 amasosha angamashumi amane ase-US aqeda imigqa yefoni yomunye wemigodi yedolobha laseNagoya futhi angena ezindlini eziningi ngesikhathi esisodwa, 'badlwengula intsha eningi besifazane nabesifazane phakathi kweminyaka eyi-10 neminyaka ye-55.' NgoMeyi 1946 MacArthur ubhekene nesifo sokudlwengula. "(Http://apjjf.org/-Terese-Svoboda/2737/article.html)
Muva nje, kungani iWashington ivume isivumelwano esasiphakathi kweTokyo neSeoul sokuthulisa abaseKorea “abaduduza abesifazane” naphezu kokuphikisana kwabaseNingizimu Korea? Mhlawumbe esinye sezizathu ukuthi ezinye zezinhlangano eziphikisayo ezinamandla eziphikisana nezikhungo zamasosha ase-US e-Okinawa naseNingizimu Korea zibangelwe izehlakalo ezimenyezelwe kahle zodlame lwezocansi lwaseMelika olwenziwa kumaJapan kanye namaKorea. Isibonelo, ukwanda okukhulu nokuzumayo kwenhlangano elwa nesisekelo e-Okinawa ngo-1995 ngemuva kokuba amatilosi amathathu aseMelika edlwengule intombazane eneminyaka engu-12, ingasaphathwa eyokudlwengulwa nokubulawa kwale ntokazi eneminyaka engu-20 ubudala kaKenneth Franklin Shinzato. Isisebenzi sasehhovisi lase-Okinawan.
Ngokomzabalazo wokuvikela amalungelo esintu abesifazane besifazane abahlukumezekile ngokobulili, isenzo esiyinkimbinkimbi kunazo zonke esithathwe nguhulumeni waseJapane eminyakeni yamuva yile mzamo wokukhokha ngokuyinhloko iSeoul ukuze kuthulise "abesifazane abathuthuzela" abanesibindi baseNingizimu Korea , ukunyakaza kukaWashington, ngoba iTokyo yagcwalisa ukufuna kukaWashington "ukuxazulula" le nkinga. "Ukuxazulula" isichazamazwi sezesayensi yezombangazwe "okwenza kube khona." IWashington izosikholelwa ukuthi ukukhumbuza losizi kungabangela imizwa engafanele phakathi kwamaJapane namaKorea, njengokungathi iWashington yayiyinto ethile yokukhanya eMpumalanga E-Asia, njengokungathi amalungelo ayisisekelo wabesifazane kufanele abekwe eceleni ngenxa yecala eliphakeme lokuthula esifundeni, njengokungathi imbangela yokuthula emhlabeni ngeke isetshenziswe kangcono ngokukhumbula ubudlova besikhathi esidlule futhi ubudlova be-patriarchies esedlule, njengokungathi ngandlela-thile ukukhohlwa amakhulu ezinkulungwane "zokududuza abesifazane" abathintekayo ngokocansi, ababoshiwe futhi bahlushwa "ezinduduzeni zabesifazane" ezihlala kulo lonke i-Greater East Asia Co-prosperity Sphere ezizosiza ngenhloso ethile . IWashington izokweluleka eTokyo futhi iseluleka sonke esitokisini samaThithupi lapho siqhubeka nebhizinisi elibaluleke ngokwengeziwe lokuwenza imali. Kukhona iminyango okuzovulwa futhi izimakethe zizolawulwa. Ukuthulisa amazwi abesifazane futhi ukususa umlando kungasiza ekuvimbeleni abantu ukuba bacabange kanzima, okungukuthi, kusukela ekuqapheliseni ukuthi ubuholi bombuso budala kanjani impi.
Isiphetho
Ubuntu ngukuqala ukubhekana nokubhujiswa okudlulayo, kungaba ngokubhujiswa kwemvelo noma impi yenyukliya eyenziwe ngumuntu ongenangqondo, ohlukumezekayo obangelwa yilokho ocindezela inkinobho yenuzi angamnika amandla okuthokoza, ukubuyisela kokungabi nalutho .
Okufihliwe esikhathini esidlule se-misogynist yizimfundiso ezinonya zobukhohlakele kanye nobuhlungu abafana abaningi abazi kahle kakhulu kodwa, kuze kube yilapho inguquko yamuva yamakhosikazi, ingakwazi ukunikeza izwi. Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi umuntu osikhumbuza ukuthi ngisho noTrump ngokwakhe uyisisulu sobukhokho obudala futhi udinga ukuphulukiswa (ngaphandle kwesidingo sakhe esicacile sokushintshwa okuphelele kwesabelo) nguLee Yong-soo, owesifazane waseKorea oneminyaka engu-88 owayeneminyaka engu-12 ubudala. bathathwa njengezigqila zobulili-bebanjwe empini yaseJapane ngesikhathi sePacific War, abamelela amalungelo abesifazane emhlabeni wonke, waba izwi elivelele lobulungisa, futhi ngesikhathi sokuvakasha kukaTump e-Asia, wamenywa edilini likahulumeni eya ku-Trump futhi UMongameli waseNingizimu Korea uMnuz Moon Jae-in. Yena, oyedwa wezisulu ezingavamile ezihlukumezekile zobudlova ngokocansi esiteji samazwe ngamazwe, empeleni wabamba i-misogynist edume kakhulu emhlabeni kanye nomlawuli oyinhloko wesakhiwo esisekelwe ekuhlukunyezweni ngokobulili. Le ngqungqutheleni eyedwa yayisenzo esicebile ngezimpawu ezibeka phambili ikusasa lokuthethelela, ukubuyisana, nokuthula e-East Asia, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukuququda kwamazinyo phakathi kweNdunankulu u-Abe's ruling party-party ultranationalists ekuphenduleni kwakhe ukumenywa etafuleni .
Ngenhlanhla kodwa ngokudabukisayo, ukulingana okukhulu kwesimo esibuhlungu namuhla kubangela iqiniso lempi nokuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili ngaphandle lapho kutholakala khona ikhanda. UThich Nhat Hanh, ummeli odumile waseBuddhist kanye nomshushisi wokuthula waseVietnam, wabonisa uhlobo lokulwa nokulwa ngale ndlela:
Ukumelana, empandeni, kufanele kusho okungaphezu kokumelana nempi. Kungukuphikisana nazo zonke izinhlobo zezinto ezifana nempi. Ngoba uhlala emphakathini wanamuhla, umuntu uzizwa sengathi akakwazi ukugcina ubuqotho, ukuphelela kalula. Umuntu uphucwe ubuntu ngokuphelele, amandla okuba wedwa… (Kucashunwe kumaHooks, Intando Yokushintsha: Amadoda, Masculinity, Nothando).
Abafana besizukulwane sami eMelika baxoxwa ngokuphindaphindiwe iminyaka engamashumi amabili kuthelevishini nakweminye imithombo yezindaba, "yiba yilokho okungaba khona" ngokujoyina ibutho, kodwa lokho esiqala ukukuqonda ukuthi ibutho lihlanganisa amasosha okuphambene nalokho-okungaphansi kokungaba khona, ukuhlukunyezwa kanye negobolondo nje lomuntu wakho wangaphambili, isidalwa sokucabanga mahhala nesidalwa samahhala owazalwa ngaso. Iphonsela amasosha ekugqibeleni komkhulu wezinzalamizi, okuholela esimweni sesosha efana noKennen Franklin Shinzato e-Okinawa, eJapane ukuthi uma usu-horny, ungangena emotweni yakho, hamba uthole owesifazane wendawo eduze kwesisekelo sezempi, futhi ucansi umhlukumeze. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uhlala noma uyafa, kufanele ukhethe. Njengoba u-Oppenheimer wathi lapho umsebenzi wakhe ucindezeleke ngesikhathi sokubhujiswa ngaleso sikhathi emlandweni wesintu, "ngifile ukufa, umbhubhisi wezwe." I-orgasm yezinhlungu. Kodwa wajabula kanjani lapho ezwa izindaba ukuthi amantombazane e-100,000, abafana, omama, ugogo nomkhulu, abantu abakhubazekile, abathunjwa kanye nabantu abagqilaziwe baseKorea, njll, baxoshwa eHiroshima?
