Yebo, ngiyazi ukuthi uyazithanda izingane zakho, njengoba nami ngithanda ezami. Lokho akungabazeki. Kodwa uyangithanda owami nami ngingowakho? Ngoba ngokubambisana kubonakala kunenkinga. UFerguson kungenzeka ukuthi uvuse abantu abambalwa ngezinye zezindlela umphakathi wethu obandlulula ngazo abantu base-Afrika baseMelika - uma "ukucwasa" kuyigama elingafaka ukubulala. Kepha lapho sivumela ukubulawa kwabantu abasha abamnyama, kungenzeka yini ukuthi labo bantu babe neziteleka ezimbili ezibhekiswe kubo, okungabamnyama nabancane?
Incwadi kaBarry Spector Madness emaGates of the City kungenye yeqoqo elicebe kakhulu lokuqonda nokucasula engikwaziyo. Yincwadi egubha izinganekwane zakudala namasiko omdabu emikhondweni ephuma esikweni lokuthenga abathengi, ukuzihlukanisa, ukucindezelwa ngokocansi, ukwesaba ukufa, inzondo nokuqagela, nokungahloniphi abancane nabadala. Enye yemikhuba ephazamisa kakhulu yale ncwadi ukuthi ukukhomba empilweni yamanje ukuqhubeka kwemikhuba esiyicabanga njengeyize, kubandakanya nokunikela ngezingane.
I-Gulf War yasungulwa ezindabeni ezingamanga zama-Iraq ezikhipha izingane ezisuka kuma-incubators. Izingane zathunyelwa ekuqasheni amahhovisi okubulala nokufa ukuze ziqede ukubulawa okucabangela nokufa. Kodwa impi akuyona kuphela indawo uMspector obukeka ngayo.
Uyabhala: “Akasavunyelwe ukuhlanganyela ekunikeleni izingane ngokoqobo,” ngaphandle kwalokho Amacala njengendoda eyaphonsa intombazanyana yayo ebhulohweni ngoLwesine eFlorida - “sikwenza lokho ngokuhlukumeza, ibhethri, ubudedengu, ukudlwengulwa nokungabi nasisizo ezikhungweni. Amantombazane aneminyaka eyishumi nanye nangaphansi enza amaphesenti angamashumi amathathu ezisulu zokudlwengulwa, kanti izisulu zokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi zezingane ziyabazi abenzi bazo ngamaphesenti ayisishiyagalolunye nantathu esikhathi. Ingxenye yesine yezingane zaseMelika ziphila ngobumpofu; abangaphezu kwesigidi babo abanamakhaya. ”
Indikimba enkulu yencwadi kaSpector ukungabikho kwesiko lokuthwasa elifanele lamadoda asakhula emasikweni ethu. Usibiza ngabantu abadala ngokungazi. Uyabuza, "singakwazi kanjani" ukuguqula lawo ma-hormone agqokile asuke enkulumweni elwa nomphakathi abe yinto enhle? Lokhu akukwazi ukushiwo ngokuqine kakhulu: amadoda angaqaliwe abangela ukuhlupheka komhlaba wonke. Kuphakathi kokuthi zishisa ngobuhlakani noma zishisa yonke into phansi. Lokhu eziphilayo ukukhishwa kudlulela izingxabano ngokuzibandakanya ngokobulili. Nakuba isimo sezinzalamizi sivumelekile futhi siqhubekisela phambili, sabo nature kuqhuba izinsizwa ngokweqile. Imicikilisho yendatshana inikeza isingathekiso nophawu ukuze abafana kungadingeki benze izinkanuko zabo zangaphakathi. ”
Kepha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi encwadini, uSpector ubonakala ngathi uphakamisa ukuthi sisicacisile kahle lesi simo futhi siwudlulisile umqondo. “Uma kuhlolisiswa, abantu abadala balinganisela ukuthi izingane zibhekene namacala angamashumi amane nantathu obugebengu obunodlame. Isazi sezokuhlalisana kwabantu uMike Males, nokho, ubika ukuthi intsha yenza amaphesenti ayishumi nantathu kuphela ala macala. Kepha cishe isigamu samazwe sishushisa izingane ezineminyaka eyishumi sengathi zingabantu abadala, kanti abantu abadala abangaphezu kwamaphesenti angamashumi amahlanu bathanda ukubulawa kwababulali abasakhula. ”
Ngezinye izikhathi thina ukukhululeka izingane ngemuva kokuzibulala, kodwa zizuzisa kangakanani lokho?
Empeleni ama-baby boomers alandisa kakhulu ngokulutha kwezidakamizwa nobugebengu, futhi iningi lawo limhlophe impela. Kepha isijeziso, njengaleso sezinhlanga ezimbalwa, sikhishwa ngokungalingani. “Intsha yaseMelika ihlala ithola izigwebo zasejele isikhathi eside ngamaphesenti angamashumi ayisithupha kunabantu abadala ngamacala afanayo. Lapho abantu abadala beyizisulu zobugebengu bobulili, izigwebo ziba nzima kunangesikhathi izisulu zisengabantwana; futhi abazali abahlukumeza izingane zabo bathola izigwebo ezimfushane kunalezo abangazazi. ”
Asigcini nje ngokubanzima ngokubambisana ezinganeni kunabantu abadala, njengabamnyama ukwedlula abamhlophe, kepha uma sigxila ebulelesini obenzelwe izingane, uSpector uthi, sihlasela abapristi noma izitabane noma amadoda angashadile, ngenhloso yokubhekana "nokungasebenzi, izikole ezigcwele ngokweqile , ukuhlakazeka komndeni noma udlame olwenziwe ezikhungweni. Manje sekungenakwenzeka ngamadoda ukuthi asebenze emfundweni yokuqala; aqukethe eyodwa kuphela ye- eleyishumi nanye othisha bamabanga aphansi. ”
Kungani sivumela isistimu ukuba iqhubeke nokubandlululwa okuchasene nakho izingane? Ngabe asiqapheli, siphazamisekile, sidukile, sinamehlo amancane, sinobugovu? USector uphakamisa ukuthi empeleni siqhubeka nomlando omude. “Kunobufakazi obuningi bokubulawa okungokoqobo kwezingane zombili (okungenani emuva kwekhulu leshumi nesishiyagalolunye) kanye nezisemthethweni, ikakhulukazi amantombazane, eYurophu. Ngenxa yalokhu, kwaba khona ukungalingani okukhulu kwabesilisa kunabesifazane kuze kufike eNkathini Ephakathi. Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba nangokobulili kwakuyinsakavukela kangangokuba izingane eziningi ezizalwe ngaphambi kwekhulu leshumi nesishiyagalombili yilokho namuhla okungabizwa ngokuthi 'izingane ezishaywayo.' Kodwa-ke, i-medical syndrome uqobo ayizange ivele phakathi kodokotela kwaze kwaba ngo-1962, lapho ukusetshenziswa okuvamile kwe-x-ray kwembula ukwaphuka okuningi okuthe xaxa ezithweni zezingane ezincane ezazisencane kakhulu ukuba zingakhononda ngamazwi. ”
Umphenyi uphinde wabhala ukuthi kwezinye ze-5,000 lynchings e-United States phakathi kwe-1880 ne-1930, okungenani amaphesenti angu-40 kwakuyizifiso zomhlatshelo womuntu, ngokuvamile ehleliwe ngokucophelela, ngokuvamile ephethe abefundisi, ngokuvamile ngeSonto, isayithi elikhethiwe kusengaphambili futhi likhangiswe emaphephandabeni.
AmaGreki namaHeberu babona ukunikela ngezingane njengengxenye yesikhathi esedlule kakhulu, uma kungenjalo okwamanje. Ukusoka kungaba yinsalela yalokhu. Omunye kungaba ngumuntu omdala obuka ingane ngothando futhi athi “bahle kakhulu ngingayidla ngiyigqibe.” Umqondo wezingane njengezisulu ungahle ubuyele emuva esikhathini lapho izidalwa ezinkulu zihlala zisongela abantu. Ukwesaba izidlakela ezinkulu kungaqhubeka ezinkulungwaneni zeminyaka ngemuva kokufaneleka ngokunembile ngoba kufundiswa izingane zisencane kakhulu. Inganyamalala ezingqondweni zabantu abadala uma inyamalala ezindabeni zezingane. Ukuveza umashiqela wangaphandle njengesilo sasendle kumakhathuni wokuhlela kungahle kubukeke njengesilima kunokwethusa.
Kukhona umkhuba odumile emfundweni manje okungafani nemigqa phakathi kwezinhlobo zobudlova, ukuze kuthiwa ngenxa yokuthi ukuxhashazwa kwezingane noma ukwehliswa kwe-lynching kuncishisiwe (uma kunjalo), kunjalo impi. Lokho Faka isicelo uye waxoshwa futhi waphazamiseka. Kodwa uSpector kanye nochwepheshe okhulumelayo, nabanye abaningi, bakholelwa ukuthi enye indlela yokwenza zonke izinhlobo zobudlova, kuhlanganise nempi, amathuba okukhulisa izingane ngothando nangengqondo. Izingane ezinjalo azikhombisi ukuthuthukisa amaphethini omcabango womsekeli wempi.
Ingabe sithanda izingane zethu? Yiqiniso senza. Kodwa kungani amazwe amancane athile eqinisekisa imfundo yamahhala ekolishi, isikhathi sokushiya abazali, isikhathi sokuphumula, umhlalaphansi, ukunakekelwa kwezempilo, njll, ngenkathi siqinisekisa kuphela impi emva kwempi emva kwempi? Kwakukhona, phakathi nempi yokugcina ebandayo, ingoma uSting abizwa amaRashiya ethi kuzoba nokuthula “uma abantu baseRussia bezithanda nezingane zabo.” Kwakusho ngaphandle kokuthi iNtshonalanga iyazithanda izingane zayo, kepha ngokusobala kwakukhona ukungabaza okuncane ngabaseRussia.
Ngenzele ukubona i ividiyo kuleli sonto lentsha yaseRussia idansa futhi icula eMoscow, ngesiNgisi, ngendlela engicabanga ukuthi abantu baseMelika bangayithanda. Ngiyazibuza ukuthi ngabe ingxenye yempendulo akuyona yini ukuthi sithande izingane zaseRussia, futhi abantu baseRussia bathande izingane zaseMelika, nathi sonke ngokubambisana - ngomqondo omkhulu wokuhlangana - ukuqala ukuthanda ngokuhlelekile nangokuhlelekile zonke izingane ngendlela esizithanda ngayo uqobo okwethu uqobo.
Nansi indawo eyodwa eyisisekelo esingaqala ngayo. Zintathu kuphela izizwe ezinqabile ukugunyaza iSivumelwano Samalungelo Engane. YiSudan, iSomalia, ne-United States of America, kanti ababili kulaba abathathu baya phambili ngokuqinisekiswa.
Abangane bami baseMelika, i-WTF?
