Ukuthunyelwa kwakhona Imagazini YENYANGA, UJuni 26, 2017.
Chappell: Ubushushu bunjengobushushu bomlilo; luphawu lwemvakalelo enzulu engaphantsi. Kuyafana nangomsindo, isithethantonye sobundlobongela. Iimvakalelo ezisisiseko ezinokubangela umsindo okanye ukuba ndlongondlongo ziquka uloyiko, ukuthotywa, ukungcatshwa, ukuphoxeka, ukuziva unetyala, okanye ukuziva ungahlonelwa. Ubundlobongela buhlala bubangelwa yintlungu okanye ukungakhululeki. Abantu ababi ndlongondlongo kuba beziva belungile. Umonzakalo udla ngokuphumela kubundlobongela. Abantu abadala banokuba ndlongondlongo namhlanje ngenxa yento eyenzekayo xa babeneminyaka emihlanu ubudala.
Ukufunda ngoxolo kubandakanya ukuqaphela ubundlobongela njengempendulo yonxunguphalo. Xa sibona umntu eziphatha ndlongondlongo, siyaqonda ngoko nangoko ukuba “Lo mntu umele ukuba ukwintlungu ethile.” Emva koko sizibuza imibuzo enjengale, “Kutheni lo mntu enxunguphele nje?” “Ndingenza ntoni ukuthomalalisa ukungakhululeki kwabo?” Sinesakhelo esisebenzayo ngakumbi sokunxibelelana nomntu.
Ngokufanayo, nini I ndibe ndlongondlongo, ndiqeqeshelwe ukuzibuza, “Kuqhubeka ntoni? Kutheni ndiziva ngolu hlobo? Ngaba ikho into endenza ndibe neentloni, ndingathembi, okanye ndilahlwe?”
Ngaphandle kolu qeqesho, abantu bathanda ukugqabhuka. Banemini embi emsebenzini ngoko bayayikhupha kwiqabane labo. Baxambulisana namaqabane abo, ngoko bayayikhupha kumntu osemva kwekhawuntara yokuphuma. Kodwa ngokuzazi, sinokuzikhumbuza ukuba sijonge kunobangela osisiseko.
Uqeqesho lukwanika abantu ubuchule bokuzola. Umzekelo, ukuba uxabene nomntu ungamnika inzuzo yokuthandabuza. Ukuqonda ukuba uninzi lwempixano yabantu lubangelwa kukuba abantu baziva bengahlonelwa, kwaye uninzi lokungahloniphi kubangelwa kukungaqondi kakuhle okanye ukunganxibelelani kakuhle, ukunika umntu inzuzo yokuthandabuza kuthetha ukufuna ukucaciswa kwenjongo yakhe kwaye angaxhumeli kwizigqibo okanye aphendule ngokungazi.
Esinye isixhobo sokuzola kukungayijongi ngokobuqu imeko. Naluphi na ungquzulwano onalo nomnye umntu mhlawumbi liqhezu nje layo yonke into eyenzekayo kunye naye. Ningazivumela nobabini niphume kwikhonkco ngokuqaphela loo nyaniso ilula.
Ubuchule besithathu kukuthintela ingxabano okomzuzwana ngeengcinga zeempawu ozixabisayo kulo mntu. Ingxabano inokukhuphaza ngokulula izinto, kodwa ukuba uyiqeqeshe ingqondo yakho ukuba iqale kwangoko ukuxabisa umntu xa kuvela ungquzulwano, kuya kukunceda ugcine ungquzulwano kwindawo efanelekileyo. Abantu baya kutshabalalisa ubuhlobo, ubudlelwane emsebenzini, kunye nosapho kunye nobudlelwane obusondeleyo ngenxa yengxabano ephuma ngaphandle komlinganiselo. Kwiminyaka kamva, abantu basenokungakhumbuli nokuba yintoni ababexambulisana ngayo. Njengabo nabuphi na ubuchule, oku kufuna ukuziqhelanisa.
Indlela yesine kukuzikhumbuza ukuba omnye umntu kufuneka abe kuhlobo oluthile lokungakhululeki okanye intlungu. Ndisenokungazi ukuba yintoni na; basenokungayazi nokuba yintoni na; kodwa ukuba ndiyakwazi ukubanika inzuzo yokuthandabuza, ndiqonde ukuba bamele ukuba basentlungwini, bangazithatheli ngokwabo izenzo zabo, kwaye ndizikhumbuze ngazo zonke izinto endizixabisayo ngabo, andiyi kuphinda ndibuyisele ubundlobongela babo kwaye ndiya kuya kuba lula ukuguqula impixano ibe sisiphumo esihle kuthi sobabini.
Inyanga: Umba wesihlanu wolwazi lokufunda nokubhala unokuba ngowona mnqweno ubalulekileyo kuwo onke: Ukufunda nokubhala ngobume benyani. Ngaba kukho nakuphi na ukuvumelana ngobume benyani?
Chappell: Ndithetha ngayo kwii-engile ezininzi. Esinye sesokuba abantu bahlukile phakathi kweentlobo ngeentlobo ngomlinganiselo ekufuneka bawufunde ukuze babe ngabantu ngokupheleleyo. Ezinye izidalwa ezininzi kufuneka zifunde izakhono ezahlukeneyo ukuze ziphile, kodwa azikho ezinye iintlobo ezifuna uqeqesho olunjengolwabantu ukuze babe yile nto siyiyo. Uqeqesho lunokubandakanya izinto ezifana nabacebisi, abantu abayimizekelo, inkcubeko, kunye nemfundo esesikweni, kodwa sifuna uqeqesho ukuze sandise amandla ethu. Lo ngumba wendalo yokwenyani nokuba uzalelwe kweyiphi na inkcubeko: abantu bafuna uqeqesho ukuze bavule amandla abo apheleleyo.
Emkhosini kukho intetho ethi, "Xa izinto zingahambi kakuhle, luvavanye uqeqesho." Xa sivavanya uqeqesho olufunyanwa ngabantu abaninzi kuluntu lwethu, iyamangalisa into engekhoyo Ngaphantsi banoxolo kunabo.
Ukuqonda ubume benyaniso kusinceda ukuba siqhelane nokuntsonkotha: ubuchopho bomntu bunzima; iingxaki zabantu zintsonkothile; Izicombululo zabantu zisenokuba nzima. Yinto nje indalo yokwenyani. Asilindelanga ukuba yahluke.
Enye inkalo yenyaniso kukuba yonke inkqubela ifuna umzabalazo. Amalungelo oluntu, amalungelo amabhinqa, amalungelo ezilwanyana, amalungelo abantu, amalungelo okusingqongileyo—ukwenza inkqubela kuthetha ukwamkela umzabalazo. Noko ke, abantu abaninzi bazama ukukuphepha ukulwa. Bayayoyika, okanye bakhetha ukucinga ukuba inkqubela ayinakuphepheka, okanye bakholelwa ukuba bubuxoki, obunjengokuthi “ixesha liphilisa onke amanxeba.” Ixesha alipholi onke amanxeba! Ixesha linokuphilisa ngakumbi or usulelo. Yintoni thina do ngokuhamba kwexesha ichaza ukuba iyaphilisa. Kukho abantu ababa novelwano ngakumbi ngokuhamba kwexesha, kwaye kukho abantu ababa nentiyo ngakumbi.
Abantu abaninzi abafuni ukwenza umsebenzi ofunwa ngumzabalazo. Bangathanda ukuthi, “Abantu abatsha kuya kufuneka bayisombulule.” Kodwa umntu oneminyaka engama-65 ubudala unokuphila eminye iminyaka engama-30; baya kwenza ntoni ngelo xesha? Linda iMillennials ukwenza wonke umsebenzi? Abantu abadala banokudlala indima ebalulekileyo ekudaleni utshintsho olufunwa lihlabathi, kwaye ndiyazi abaninzi abandikhuthazayo ngomsebenzi abawenzayo.
Akukho mzekelo wenkqubela phambili enkulu, impumelelo enkulu, okanye uloyiso olukhulu ngaphandle komzabalazo. Ngoko abalweli boxolo kufuneka bamkele inyaniso yokuba umzabalazo awunakuphepheka ukuba sifuna inkqubela phambili; kwaye kufuneka bamkele ubunyani bokuba kuya kufuna izakhono ekufuneka ziphuhliswe.
Ndicinga ukuba abanye abaphembeleli boxolo bayawoyika umzabalazo kuba abanaso isakhono esifunekayo sokwenza umzabalazo omkhulu, kwimeko apho, umzabalazo ungoyikisa kakhulu. Kanye njengokuba ungafuni ukuya edabini ngaphandle koqeqesho, usenokungafuni ukubandakanyeka kwiphulo loxolo ngaphandle koqeqesho. Kodwa uqeqesho is maneka.
Inyanga: Kudliwano-ndlebe lwethu oludlulileyo, usicelile ukuba “Khawufane ucinge ukuba igama laseMelika kwihlabathi liphela belibonelela ngokungqongqo ngoncedo loluntu; ukuba, nanini na kukho intlekele, amaMerika ayesiza, ancede, aze ahambe.” Ngaba sikwisikhundla sokuqala ukuba nombono wendima yomkhosi?
Chappell: Ndicinga ukuba iindlela ezisisiseko zokucinga azitshintshanga ngokwaneleyo ukuba siguqule umkhosi wethu ube ngumkhosi ongqongqo wobuntu. Ukucinga kwethu kufuneka kutshintshe kuqala. Kusekho inkolelo eyothusayo ekusetyenzisweni kwamandla omkhosi ukucombulula iingxaki. Yintlekele kuba abantu baseMelika-kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo abantu kwezinye iindawo zehlabathi, ngokunjalo-baya kuba ngcono ukuba siphelise imfazwe kwaye sibeke loo mali kukhathalelo lwezempilo, imfundo, amandla acocekileyo, ukwakha kwakhona iziseko, kunye nazo zonke iintlobo zexesha loxolo. uphando. Kodwa izimo zengqondo ezisisiseko azikatshintshi ngokwaneleyo ukuze ubone oko.
Nabaqhubela phambili abathi bakholelwa “kubuntu obunye,” bahlala bengakwazi ukuthetha nomxhasi kaTrump ngaphandle kokuba nomsindo. Ukufunda ngoxolo kukuqonda okunzulu ngakumbi kunenkolelo yokuba “sonke sibanye.” Ukufunda ngoxolo kukwenza ukwazi ukuthetha nabani na kwaye uqonde oonobangela bokubandezeleka kwabantu, nto leyo esivumela ukuba siphilise abo nobangela. Oko kufuna umlinganiselo onzulu wovelwano. Ekuphela kwendlela endikwazi ngayo ukuyifumana kungomsebenzi omninzi wobuqu. Baninzi abantu ababuqondayo ubuntu bethu ekwabelwana ngabo kwinqanaba lokuqonda, kodwa abangabufakanga ngokupheleleyo ngaphakathi. Kufuneka sinike abantu isikhokelo esizinzileyo kunye nemiyalelo yokwenza olo tshintsho. Kungenjalo, kufana nokufunda “Ukuthanda utshaba lwakho” eBhayibhileni. Udinga izakhono ezininzi kunye nokuziqhelanisa ukuze wenze oko ngokwenene. Yiloo nto ukufunda ngoxolo.
Inyanga: Kuthekani ukuba sibuyela emkhosini ukuba sifundise uxolo?
Chappell: Ngokwenyani, ndifunde uninzi lwezakhono zam zoxolo eWest Point, ezikubonisa ukuba lubi kangakanani na uqeqesho lokufunda uxolo kwilizwe lethu. [Ehleka] Ngokomzekelo, iWest Point yandifundisa, “Dumisa esidlangalaleni, yohlwaya ngasese.” Babesazi ukuba akunamveliso ukuhlazisa umntu esidlangalaleni. Kwakhona umkhosi wafundisa ukubaluleka kokumisela umzekelo nokukhokela ukususela kwisiseko sentlonelo.
Inyanga: Kuthekani "ngokusebenzisana kunye nesidanga"?
Chappell: [Ehleka] Ewe, sebenzisana kwaye uphumelele! Oko kwakufana nentetho yaseWest Point: sonke sasithweswe uxanduva ngempumelelo yabafundi esasifunda nabo. Asiyonto oyivayo kwizikolo ezininzi zaseMelika. “Iqela elinye, umlo omnye,” yayingomnye owatsho iWest Point. Ekupheleni kosuku, ngaphandle kokungavisisani kwethu, sonke sikwiqela elinye.
Inyanga: Ndamangaliswa—kodwa ndinombulelo—ngeenkalo ezimbini zokugqibela zolwazi lokufunda nokubhala: ukukwazi ukufunda nokubhala kwimbopheleleko yethu kwizilwanyana nakwindalo. Ungathetha ngakumbi malunga nokuba kutheni ezi zibalulekile kulwazi lokufunda noxolo?
Chappell: Abantu banamandla okutshabalalisa i-biosphere kunye nobomi obuninzi emhlabeni. Ekuphela kwendlela yokumelana naloo mandla makhulu kukuqonda ngokulinganayo uxanduva—oluhlobo lokufunda nokubhala. Izilwanyana azinamandla okumelana nabantu. Abanakuququzelela naluphi na uhlobo lwemvukelo okanye ukuchasa; sinokwenza nantoni na esiyifunayo ngabo. Oku kuthetha ukuba sinembopheleleko yokuziphatha kubo.
Uninzi lweenkcubeko lugweba uluntu ngendlela oluphatha ngayo abona basengozini. Iinkedama nabahlolokazi zizinto eziqhelekileyo kwiTestamente eNdala; amabanjwa lolunye udidi olusemngciphekweni olusetyenziselwa ukulinganisa ukuziphatha kwabantu. Izilwanyana lelona qela libuthathaka kuzo zonke. Ukubanyamekela luhlobo oluthile Uxolo ukufunda nokubhala kuba amandla ethu amakhulu okutshabalalisa nawo abeka abantu emngciphekweni. Apha kulapho ulwazi lokufunda noxolo luba lubuchule bokusinda. Ukuba sitshabalalisa i-biosphere sibeka emngciphekweni ukusinda kwethu. Abantu kufuneka babe nolwazi ngoxolo ukuze baphile njengezidalwa.
