Oomama endidibene nabo

Ngaphezulu kwekhulu loomama abanxibelelana nam kule minyaka idlulileyo, bothukile kubudlelwane abantwana babo abakwishumi elivisayo ababebukhulisa nabaqeshi emkhosini esikolweni. Babefuna ukwazi ukuba banokwenza ntoni ngayo. Babenomsindo, kwaye bekhathazekile.

Inyani yokuba la mabhinqa afikelele kum nakwamanye amajoni okugaya abasebenzi abonisa inqanaba le-alamu abaye bayifumana. Bebesaba abantwana babo abasesichengeni ukuba bangabhalisa ngokuchasene neminqweno yabo. Babesoyika ukuba umntwana wabo uza kubulawa ngelixa babemi ngakuye. Le yayiyeyona nto yayiqhubela phambili ukuxhathisa kwabo.

Oomama abaliqela bandixelele ukuba bayabucaphukela ubukho babaqeshi bezomkhosi kwisikolo sabantwana babo kwaye bachaze nefuthe labaqeshi ababenalo ngaphezulu kwengcinga nokuziphatha kwabantwana babo. Bathetha ngobudlelwane obunzima ababenabo nabantwana babo. Abanye bathi umntwana wabo wenze ubudlelwane obusondeleyo nabaqeshi esikolweni ngaphezulu kweminyaka emibini. Aba mama bebeqinisekile ukuba oonyana babo bazokufaka izicelo kuba amakhwenkwe abo ayayazi intlungu eya kubenza koonina.

EMelika, bambalwa kuphela abakulungeleyo ukubeka emngciphekweni ukugculelwa esidlangalaleni ngokuchasene nomkhosi wase-US okanye imfazwe ngokubanzi. Nangona kunjalo, uninzi lwaba mama lwalunobutshaba, njengamaxhoba asemakhoneni akhusela abantwana babo.  

Aba bafazi babalaseleyo bagxibha ukungalingani ngokwasemphefumlweni kwabaqeshi ababenabo ngaphezu kwabantwana babo kunye nokusilela kwenkxaso abahlangabezana nayo emva kokujongana nolawulo lwesikolo. Babenexhala kwaye bekhathazekile ngokwenza amaza kwaye abanye bachaza iimvakalelo zeparanoia ezalwe yinzondo abaye bahlangana nayo kuluntu lwabo ngenxa yokuchasa kwabo emkhosini. Benza ngenxa yothando ngabantwana babo.

Isini sidlala indima kwiphupha lokuqesha elidlalayo kwilizwe liphela. Ootata abahlali babandakanyeka ekuchaseni umkhosi kwizikolo eziphakamileyo. Ngoomama. Okwangoku, oomama abakaze beze kum ngenxa yokoyika iintombi zabo.

Mhlawumbi okona kubangcangcazelisayo, oomama abaninzi bathi abantwana babo bebengenakho ukwenza isigqibo sobukhulu obunjalo besebancinci. Ayothusi loo nto. Umbutho wezeMpilo waseMelika APHA Bukhona ubungqina obubonakalayo bokuba ingqondo yeshumi elivisayo ayixhotyiswanga ukwenza ubalo oluchanekileyo malunga nokubhaliswa emkhosini.

I-APHA ikhomba kumathuba amakhulu okuba amajoni amancinci afumane umngcipheko kwimpilo yengqondo, kubandakanya uxinzelelo, ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi, ii-syndromes zoxinzelelo, uxinzelelo, uxinzelelo lwasemva koxinzelelo, kunye nokuzibulala. U-APHA uthi abagcini babandakanyeka kwiindlela zokuziphatha ezinobundlongondlongo kumzamo wokufumana ukuzithemba nokuzithemba komntwana. Abaqeshi banomdla okhethekileyo ngelixa besilela ukuhlonipha imida ecacileyo.

Omama balwa ngokumasikizi. Ngamanye amaxesha bayakwazi ukugcina abantwana babo bangabhalisi; ngamanye amaxesha abakwazi. Ngamanye amaxesha zisebenza ngokunyanzela izikolo ukuba zitshintshe imigaqo-nkqubo yazo ngokubhekisele kubaqeshi abafikelela kubafundi ekhampasini. Ngamanye amaxesha bayakwazi ukuthintela ukuhamba kolwazi kwisikolo sabo ukuya kumyalelo wokugaya.

Umama eMidwest wadibana nam malunga nokungaqiniseki kwakhe okunzulu malunga nendlela ababefuna ngayo ubuhlobo nabahlobo kunyana wakhe esikolweni. Uye wathi abagcini babenolawulo olumangalisayo esikolweni.

(Emveni kwakho konke, Iphepha 2 leNcwadi yoMqeshi ufuna "ubunini besikolo.")

Unyana wakhe wabhalisa ngokuchasene neminqweno yakhe. Kwiminyaka emibini kamva wabulawa e-Afghanistan. Unditsalele umnxeba kwiintsuku ezimbalwa emva kweendaba ezibuhlungu. Wavuma ukuba umngcwabo wonyana wakhe e-Arlington National Cemetery ufotwe ngumbutho weendaba wamanye amazwe oxele ngokuchasene nokufunyanwa kwabafundi esikolweni. Uthe kufuneka ayenze. Iphupha lakhe elibi lazaliseka.

Omnye umama oyinzalelwane yaseMexico ngaphandle kweDenver, ochaze ukukhulisa inkwenkwana yakhe ekwishumi elivisayo ngaphandle koyise, ngequbuliso wachaza ubuhlobo obusondeleyo bonyana wakhe kunye nomqeshi wezomkhosi waseMexico awayebabona phantse yonke imihla esikolweni. Aba babini bachitha iiyure bedlala ibhola yomntu omnye kwaye umntwana wakhe ekugqibeleni wabhalisa. Abaqeshi emkhosini baba "Njengomntu ongutata."

Ndifumene enye ifowuni evela kumama eColorado. Abafundi abaliqela esikolweni, kubandakanya nonyana wakhe, baxele ukufunyanwa kwabagadi emkhosini bebhekisa kwiqela elincinci labafundi njenge "f * ing fagots" ngelixa babephethe i-ASVAB ukuya kuma-500 ngexesha leseshoni yokuvavanywa komkhosi ngonyaka. Ingxubakaxaka ebangelwe koko, eyathi kamva yafakwa kwiphepha lendawo, yajolisa kwislur elichasene nesini, kodwa khange ithathele ngqalelo kuvavanyo olunyanzelekileyo lwama-500. Omnye wabafundi abevayo la mazwi wathi abafundi abaliqela abonwabanga kukunyanzelwa uvavanyo lwachongwa ngabaqeshi. "Amajoni asikhethe ngenxa yendlela esikhangeleka ngayo," watsho umfana osemncinci esikolweni.

Umama okhathazekileyo ovela eNorth Carolina wanditsalela umnxeba endixelela ukuba unyana wakhe kunye nabanye ababini bayalile ukuthatha uvavanyo olufunekayo lwe-ASVAB esikolweni kwaye bathunyelwa kwigumbi lokugcina usuku. Iphepha lendawo lavuma ukubhala ibali, ngokubanzi lixhasa ukunyanzeliswa kwesikolo ukuba bonke abafundi bathathe uvavanyo lomkhosi. Inqununu icacisile yathi, “Andinawo umonde kubantu abangafuniyo ukwenza uvavanyo- okanye abala into engena kwinqanaba labo.”

Umama omncinci kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo eGeorgia uchaze nge-imeyile inqununu yonyana wakhe wathi i-ASVAB yayigunyaziswe ngumthetho wobumbano. Wayejonga ukuba iyinyani na. Akunjalo, kunjalo.

Ukuthumela kumajelo eendaba ezentlalo kunye nokuhambisa iiflaya ngomhla wovavanyo, abadala ababini abangaxelwanga igama abaneminyaka eli-17 ubudala baqinisekisa isiqingatha seklasi yabancinci ukwala ukuthatha uvavanyo. Abafundi abaliqela ababehleli kuvavanyo bazalisa ulwazi oluphosakeleyo.  

Umama eFlorida, uToria Latnie wandixelela umcebisi kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo saseFlorida walumkisa abantu abadala ukuba uvavanyo lokubhaliswa emkhosini lwaluyimfuneko yokuphumelela. U-Latnie waphanda umba kwaye wala ukuvumela unyana wakhe ukuba enze uvavanyo. ULatnie wayengoyiki. USA namhlanje uxele ukuba uthe, “bendinomsindo, ndicaphuka kakhulu. Ndaziva ndixokisiwe, ndikhohlisiwe, ngokungathi abantu bazama ukundishiya ngasemva banike ulwazi lwabucala lomntwana wam emkhosini. ”

Umama ovela e-Oregon wathumela i-imeyile ukubuza ukuba "kusemthethweni" na ukuba unyana wakhe acelwe ukuba enze uvavanyo lomkhosi ngosuku olulandelayo esikolweni. Ndacacisa ukuba indima yomkhosi icacile njengodaka. Inokuba yayingaphakathi komthetho, kumhlaba ongenamthetho, ndacacisa. Umyalelo wokugaya uthi ayifuni ukuba abantwana bathathe i-ASVAB. Endaweni yoko, umkhosi uthi uzakusebenzisana namagosa esikolo afuna abafundi ukuba bawuthathe.  

Ngokomgaqo wezomkhosi, ukuba isikolo sifuna bonke abafundi bebanga ukuba bavavanye, i-DOD "iya kusixhasa." Yabona Ummiselo wokuThengwa kwaBasebenzi we-DOD 3.1.e. Abantwana kwizikolo eziliwaka banyanzelwa ukuba bathathe uvavanyo lomkhosi.

Ngosuku olulandelayo, unyana wakhe kunye nenye inkwenkwe bakhetha iimpendulo, okwenza amakhwenkwe amabini asuswe nguSergeant wokuqala ophetheyo esikolweni. Lo mama, njengabanye abaninzi, wakhuthaza kwaye wakhuthaza ukumelana nonyana wakhe.

Omnye umama eMidwest wafunda ngokuzimisela umcimbi wovavanyo lwezomkhosi olunyanzelekileyo kwisithuba seenyanga ezininzi. Ikhulu le-imeyile zahamba zaya zabuya zaza amakhulu amawaka amagama atshintshiselana kwaye asetyenziswa. Xa usuku lokuvavanywa komkhosi olunyanzelekileyo lufikile, inkwenkwe yakhe yaququzelela “uMhla wokuTsiba oPhezulu” owawukwazi ukugcina isiqingatha sabantu abadala esikolweni ukuba singalwenzi uvavanyo.  

Umama waseMaryland, owayesebenza njengomcebisi kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo awayefunda kuso unyana wakhe, wandithumela ifom yezomthetho eyenziweyo eveliswe ngumkhosi wokuqesha wabangela ukuba zonke iziphumo zovavanyo ze-ASVAB zithunyelwe kubaqeshi ngaphandle kokunika isikolo ithuba loku ndigcine ulwazi.  

Ndithethile nomama okhathazekileyo ovela eMinneapolis othumele nge-imeyile ukuba umntwana wakhe wayethandana nomqeshi esikolweni owayechitha ixesha kwi-Applebee yendawo apho unyana wakhe wayesebenza khona.  

Omnye umama eWashington, DC wanxibelelana esithi inkwenkwe yakhe ibekwe ngokuzenzekelayo kwinkqubo ye-JROTC esikolweni xa iqala ukuya kwisikolo sikarhulumente se-DC kwi9.th grade. Andifuni ukuba aphathe loo mipu, utshilo. ” Uye wamkhupha.

Ndidibene noomama abalishumi elinababini abacinga ukuba sele belahlekile emfazweni. Ngokukhawuleza xa umntwana wabo egqiba i-18, abo bafunayo babatyikitya I-DD 4 yokuBhaliswa koMkhosi / amaXwebhu okuBhalisa kwakhona. Oku kubabeke abantwana babo kwiNkqubo yokuNgena kwiNqanaba eliCothisiweyo, (DEP). I-DEP ivumela abadala bezikolo eziphakamileyo ukuba babhalisele ukuya emkhosini ngaphambi komhla wokuthumela ngenqanawa kuqeqesho olusisiseko. Oomama bafuna ukwazi ukuba umntwana wabo angaphuma na kwi-DEP.  

Oomama baseTexas, eKentucky, naseArkansas abantwana babo ababekwi-DEP bathi abagadi babaxelele oonyana babo ukuba bazakubanjwa ukuba abafikanga ingxelo kuqeqesho olusisiseko. Omnye umqeshi wathi ukungaxeli kuya kubandakanya ixesha elinyanzelekileyo lokuvalelwa. Umama wase-Ohio uthe umqeshi wathumela imiyalezo emoyikisayo xa unyana wakhe esithi akasafuni ukubhalisa. Bonke aba mama bebengakholelwa xa ndicacisa ukuba indlela elula yokuphuma kwi-DEP yile ungenzi nto. Ndacacisa ukuba akukho mfuneko yokuba umntu omncinci afune ukwazisa umkhosi ukuba akasafuni ukuba lilungu lomkhosi. Ukwala ukunika ingxelo kwinkampu yokuqalisa kuthetha ukuba iphupha elibi liphelile.

Ukuqeshwa komkhosi waseMelika, ngakumbi kwizikolo eziphakamileyo zikarhulumente, yinto edelekileyo, yokulandela ngokwasemphefumlweni oko kwenza amajoni akhethwe ngononophelo aqeqeshelwe kwisayikholoji yokugaya abantwana abasesichengeni. Kuyothusa umgaqo-nkqubo woluntu, kwaye lixesha lokuba uphele.