Vanamai vandakasangana navo

Vanopfuura mazana zana amai vakabatana neni mumakore apfuura, vakavhunduka pahukama hwaive nevana vavo vachiri kuyaruka vachikura nevanotora zvechiuto kuchikoro. Vaida kuziva zvavaigona kuita nezvazvo. Vakanga vakatsamwa, uye vakanga vachinetseka.

Chokwadi icho vakadzi ava chakasvika kwandiri nevamwe vanopokana nekutora chinoratidza mwero we alarm yavakaona. Vaitya vana vavo vanotambura vaizonyorera vasingadi. Vaitya kuti mwana wavo aizourawa pavakamira. Iri ndiro raive simba rekutyaira rekuramba kwavo.

Vanamai vanoverengeka vakandiudza kuti vakatsamwiswa zvakanyanya nekuvapo kwevashandi vechiuto muchikoro chemwana wavo uye ivo vakarondedzera pesvedzero yevanotora basa pamusoro pekufunga nemabatiro emwana wavo. Vakataura nezve hukama hwakaoma hwavaive nahwo nevana vavo. Vamwe vakati mwana wavo akagadzira hukama hwepedyo nevashandisi kuchikoro kweanopfuura makore maviri. Amai ava vaive nechokwadi kuti vanakomana vavo vaizonyorera nekuti vakomana vavo vaiziva kurwadziwa kwaizoita amai vavo.

MuAmerica, vashoma chete ndivo vanoda kuisa panjodzi yeruzhinji nekupokana kwavo neuto reUS kana hondo zvakajairika. Nekudaro, vazhinji veaamai ava vaive neruvengo, senge nyama yemakona inodzivirira vana vavo.  

Vakadzi vakuru ava vakazvidza kusaenzana kwepfungwa kwevashandisi vaive pamusoro pevana vavo uye kushomeka kwerutsigiro rwavakasangana navo mushure mekutarisana nehutongi hwechikoro. Vakanga vachishushikana uye vachishushikana nezvekugadzira mafungu uye vamwe vakatsanangura manzwiro eparanoia akazvarwa nehasha dzavakasangana nadzo munharaunda mavo nekuda kwekushora kwavo mauto. Vakaita nekuda rudo rwevana vavo.

Gender inoita chinzvimbo mukutora vanhu zvinotyisa zvinotamba nyika yese. Vanababa havawanzo kuve nechekuita nekupokana nemauto muzvikoro zvepamusoro. Ndiamai. Zvichakadaro, vanaamai havana kumbobvira vasvika kwandiri nekuda kwekutya vanasikana vavo vanogona kunyorera.

Zvichida zvinoshungurudza, amai vazhinji vakati vana vavo vaisakwanisa kuita sarudzo yehukuru hwakadai pazera diki zvakadaro. Hazvishamise. IAmerican Ruzhinji Hutano Sangano APHA inoti pane humbowo hwakakosha hwekuti huropi hwevechiri kuyaruka hauna kushongedzerwa kuti hunyatso kuverenga nezvengozi maererano nekunyoresa muchiuto.

APHA inonongedza mukana wakakura wekuti varwi vadiki vanozoona njodzi dzehutano hwepfungwa, kusanganisira kushushikana, kushandisa zvinodhaka, kushushikana syndromes, kushushikana, kunetsekana nekushungurudzika, uye kuzviuraya. APHA inoti vacherechedzi vanoita hunhu hunhu mukuyedza kuwana chivimbo chemwana uye kuvimba. Vashandirwi vane runako rwakanyanya asi vachitadza kukudza miganho yakajeka.

Moms ava vanorwa zvine mutsindo. Dzimwe nguva ivo vanokwanisa kudzivirira vana vavo kubva kunyoresa; dzimwe nguva havagone. Dzimwe nguva ivo vanobatsira mukumanikidza zvikoro kuti zvishandure marongero azvo maererano nevanowana mukana vanowana kune vadzidzi vari kukambasi. Dzimwe nguva vanokwanisa kudzora kuyerera kweruzivo kubva kuchikoro kwavo kuenda kumutemo wekutora.

Vamwe amai vari kuMidwest vakasangana neni nezve kushushikana kwavo kwakadzama pamusoro penzira iyo vashandirwi vaishamwaridzana nemwanakomana wavo kuchikoro. Iye akati vashanduri vaive nekutonga kunoshamisa pachikoro.

(Shure kwezvose, Peji 2 reRecruiter's Handbook inodaidzira "muridzi wechikoro.")

Mwanakomana wake akanyorera zvinopesana nezvido zvake. Makore maviri gare gare akaurayiwa muAfghanistan. Akandisheedza mazuva mashoma mushure memashoko anoparadza. Akabvuma kuve nemariro emwanakomana wake kuArlington National Cemetery akafoterwa nesangano renhau repasi rese iro rakamhan'arira kuramba kwake kutora chikoro. Akati aifanira kuzviita. Hope dzake dzakaitika.

Mumwe amai vanobva kuMexico kubva kunze kweDenver, uyo akatsanangura kurera mukomana wake achiri kuyaruka asina baba, nekushamisika akarondedzera hushamwari hwemwanakomana wake neanotora muchiuto chizvarwa chekuMexico chaaiona nguva zhinji mazuva ese kuchikoro. Vaviri vakapedza maawa vachitamba bhora-one-bhora uye mwana wavo akazonyora. Vanotora muchiuto vakava "Semunhu baba."

Ndakagamuchira imwe foni kubva kuna amai muColorado. Vadzidzi vakati wandei pachikoro, kusanganisira nemwanakomana wake, vakataura vachinzwa mushandi weuto muchiuto achinongedzera kuboka diki revadzidzi se "f * ing fagots" pavanenge vachipa ASVAB kusvika mazana mashanu panguva yechikoro yegore rino inoda kuongororwa muchiuto. Mheremhere yakazoitika, yakazotorwa mupepa remuno, yakanangana nekurwisa ngochani, asi haina hanya nekumanikidzwa kuyedzwa mazana mashanu. Mumwe wevadzidzi akanzwa chirevo ichi akati vadzidzi vakati wandei vasina kufara nekumanikidzwa kutora bvunzo yacho yakasarudzwa nevakatora basa. "Masoja akatitora nekuda kwemaitiro edu," akadaro mumwe mudiki pachikoro.

Amai vakashungurudzika vanobva kuNorth Carolina vakadana kuzondiudza kuti mwanakomana wavo nevamwe vaviri vakaramba kutora bvunzo yaidikanwa yeASVAB kuchikoro uye vakaendeswa kuimba yekuvharirwa kwezuva racho. Pepanhau remuno rakabvuma kunyora nyaya, kazhinji vachitsigira chikoro kuti vadzidzi vese vatore bvunzo dzechiuto. Mairi, mukuru wechikoro akatsanangura, "Handina moyo murefu nevanhu vari kuramba kutora bvunzo - kana kuramba chero chinhu icho chikamu chavo chegiredhi chiri kutora chikamu."

Vamwe amai vejunior pachikoro chesekondari kuGeorgia vakatsanangura muemail mukuru wechikoro chemwanakomana wavo akati ASVAB yakarairwa nemutemo wezvematongerwo enyika. Akanga achitarisa mukati kuti aone kana ichi chaive chokwadi. Hazvisi, hongu.

Kutumira pasocial media nekuparadzira mafikisi pazuva rebvunzo, vaviri vasina kutaurwa mazita vane makore gumi nemanomwe vakwegura vakagutsa hafu yekirasi yejunior kuti varambe kutora bvunzo. Vadzidzi vakati wandei vakagara bvunzo vakazadza ruzivo rwakakanganisika.  

Vamwe amai muFlorida, Toria Latnie akandiudza chipangamazano pachikoro chemwanakomana wavo kuFlorida chesekondari vakayambira vakuru kuti bvunzo dzekunyoresa muchiuto chaitodiwa pakupedza kudzidza. Latnie akaongorora nyaya iyi ndokuramba kuti mwana wake atore bvunzo. Latnie aive asingatyi. USA Today vakamuudza achiti, “Ndanga ndakatsamwa, ndakatsamwa kwazvo. Ndainzwa kunyeperwa, kunyengedzwa, sevanhu vaiedza kuenda kuseri kwangu vopa ruzivo rwemwana wangu rwechiuto. ”

Vamwe amai vanobva kuOregon vakatumira tsamba paemail kuti vabvunze kana zviri "pamutemo" kuti mwanakomana wavo anzi atore bvunzo dzechiuto zuva rinotevera kuchikoro. Ndakatsanangura kuti basa remauto rakanga rakajeka sedope. Zvichida zvaive mukati memutemo, munyika isina mutemo, ndakatsanangura. Iwo wekuraira kuraira haudi kuti vana vatore ASVAB. Pane kudaro, mauto anoti achabatana nevatungamiriri vechikoro vanoda kuti vadzidzi vatore.  

Zvinoenderana nemirau yemauto, Kana chikoro chichida kuti vese vadzidzi vegiredhi vayedze, iyo DOD "ichaitsigira." Maona DOD Yevashandi Yekutenga Yekuraira 3.1.e. Vana muzvikoro zvine chiuru vanomanikidzwa kutora bvunzo dzechiuto.

Zuva rakatevera, mwanakomana wake uye mumwe mukomana vakasarudzika mhinduro, zvichikonzera kuti vakomana vaviri vabviswe na1 Sajeni vaitungamira pachikoro. Amai ava, sevamwe vazhinji, vakakurudzira uye vakakurudzira kuramba kwemwanakomana wavo.

Vamwe amai kuMidwest vakanyatsodzidza nyaya yekumanikidzwa kuyedzwa kwemauto mukati memwedzi yakati wandei. Mazana emaemail akadzokera nekudzoka nemazana ezviuru emazwi akachinjaniswa nekupedzwa. Pakasvika zuva rekumanikidzwa kunovhenekwa muchiuto, mukomana wake akaronga "Senior Skip Day" iro rakakwanisa kuchengetedza hafu yevakuru vechikoro kubva pakuita bvunzo.  

Vamwe amai kuMaryland, avo vakashandawo semurairidzi wezano pachikoro chesekondari chaipinda nemwanakomana wavo, vakanditumira fomu repamutemo rakaburitswa neuto rekutora vemo iro rakakonzera mhedzisiro yese yeASVAB kutumirwa kune vanotora vasina kupa chikoro mukana kunyima ruzivo.  

Ndakataura naamai vakashungurudzika kubva kuMinneapolis avo vakatumira tsamba vachiti mwana wavo aishamwarirwa neanotora chikoro kuchikoro uyo aipedza nguva kuAppbebee yemuno kwaishanda mwanakomana wavo.  

Mumwe amai muWashington, DC vakasangana kuti vataure kuti mukomana wavo akaiswa otomatiki muchirongwa cheJROTC kuchikoro paakatanga kuenda kuchikoro chevoruzhinji cheDC mu9th giredhi. "Handidi kuti abate pfuti, akadaro." Akamuburitsa.

Ini ndanga ndasangana naamai gumi nevaviri vaifunga kuti vangadai vakatokundwa muhondo. Pakangoti mwana wavo asvitsa makore gumi nemasere, vashanduri vakaita kuti vasayine DD 4 Kunyoresa muchiuto / Reenlistment Gwaro. Izvi zvakaisa vana vavo muDelayed Entry Chirongwa, (DEP). Iyo DEP inobvumidza vakuru vechikoro chesekondari kunyoresa kumauto zuva risati rasvika kwavanotumira kunodzidziswa zvekutanga. Vana mama vaida kuziva kuti mwana wavo aigona kubuda muDIP here.  

Vanamai muTexas, Kentucky, uye Arkansas vane vana vaive muDIP vakati vanoshandira vakaudza vanakomana vavo kuti vaizosungwa kana vasina kuudza kudzidziswa kwekutanga. Mumwe anotora basa akati kusarevera kunosanganisira nguva yekumanikidzwa. Vamwe amai muOhio vakati muchengeti akatumira mameseji ekutyisidzira kana mwanakomana wavo akati haachadi kunyorera. Vanamai vese ava vaive vasingatendi pandakatsanangura kuti nzira iri nyore yekubuda muDIP ndeye kuita chero chinhu. Ndakatsanangura kuti hazvidi kuti wechidiki anyore kuzivisa mauto kuti haachadi kuva nhengo yemasoja. Kuramba kumhan'ara kumusasa webhutsu zvinoreva kuti hope dzehusiku dzapera.

Kuunganidzwa kwemauto eAmerica, kunyanya muzvikoro zvepamusoro zveruzhinji, chinhu chinoshoreka, kutsvaga kwepfungwa kunokomberedza varwi vakasarudzwa zvine hungwaru vakadzidziswa mune zvepfungwa dzekutora zvechiuto vana vanotambura. Inotyisa mutemo weveruzhinji, uye inguva yekuzvipedza.